tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010338521119486412024-03-12T16:17:07.903-07:00Saying "I DO" in DCMusings on marriage in our great Nation's capital city.Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-71692482063402184902011-05-02T14:02:00.000-07:002011-05-03T06:53:46.836-07:00Engagement shoot: to market, to market<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">Andrew and I had our engagement photos taken around Capitol Hill this past Saturday </span>(finally, yay!), and I can honestly say the whole experience was even <b>more</b> fun and laid-back than I expected it to be! We staged plenty of poses around the Dome and Senate-side grotto before heading to Eastern Market for some more informal photos against a backdrop of brick walls and produce stands. To our delight, the weather held up and despite the wind making its presence known on occasion by messing with my hair in the midst of a shot, it couldn't have been a prettier day. <br />
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My mother's sister, Daria, was visiting with us for the weekend and we dragged her along for the ride -- but she captured some great behind-the-scenes moments from the shoot and was able to wander off on her own at Eastern Market to peruse the antiques and jewelry vendors. Even our photographer, <a href="http://www.lisaboggsphotography.com/">Lisa Boggs</a>, came back with acquisitions of her own: a gorgeous amber ring and an adorable, floppy sun hat :)<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">Lisa tells me that she should have some of the shots up on her <a href="http://www.lisaboggsphotography.com/blog">blog </a>by Thursday, and I can't wait to see how everything turned out! A BIG THANK YOU to Lisa for her patience with us novice models and for her awesome ideas on composition, and also many many thanks to my makeup artist, <a href="http://www.ginarobinsonmua.com/">Gina Robinson</a>, for <span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;">making me look so p</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">retty!</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"></span>The original message was from one Olga Topchaya, Director of Marketing for <a href="http://www.artofplatinum.com/">Leon Meg<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;">é</span> Inc</a>, which bills itself as a "luxury jewelry company." Olga touted the launch of an "unprecedented product" in engagement ring fashion based on the philosophy that <i>"fashion is not merely a style; it's a state of mind."</i> Go on.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;"></span>At first I thought it was a bad joke. Believe me, it is not.<br />
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For every non-occasion in your dating or single life, there's a ring for that:<br />
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<b>Le Petite Indépendance:</b> enables a single woman to own an engagement ring<br />
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Like a bad flashback to the scene in <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0251127/">How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days</a> where pitch-man Matthew McConaughey comes up with the cringe-worthy slogan "Ladies: Frost Yourselves" as a ploy to get women to buy their own diamonds instead of receiving them as gifts from gentleman romancers, Leon Meg<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;">é</span>'s utterly transparent scheme to boost sales under the pretense of feminism is seriously the worst case of life imitating art.<br />
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From the <a href="http://www.1888pressrelease.com/new-horizons-leon-mege-launches-le-petite-collection-expan-pr-296047.html">press release</a> accompanying the email: <i>"<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;">Megé asserts that our society has dictated that a diamond ring has to be a symbol of engagement. 'Especially in today’s world, where marriage rates are declining and divorce rates are increasing, it seems hardly fair that such luxury should be reserved for the bride,' states Megé."</span></i><br />
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<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;"></span></i>While I appreciate Mr. Meg<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;">é</span>'s indisputably sincere and heartfelt concern for all the unwedded women of the world and for our nation's rising divorce rate, aside from being just a ridiculously stupid idea altogether, this marketing blunder accomplishes nothing more than the cheapening of what engagement signifies and what marriage means. Let me wax philosophical for just a moment.<br />
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I dated my fiancé for 8 years before we got engaged. By giving me that ring and asking me to marry him, he meant that just being together wasn't enough. That we were going to be together <i><b>always</b></i>. That he cared enough about me to put up with my moody sniping and griping, my spontaneous late-night cheese fry cravings, my large and occasionally overbearing family, my flighty memory, the slow incursion of my stuff into every available space in the apartment including in his own tiny closet, and all the other good and bad and annoying stuff that comes with me. That not only did he love me and did I know he loved me, but that he wanted to declare that love before friends, family, and God.<br />
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Even if the Western World's symbol of engagement had instead evolved over time to the wearing of a necklace or a pin or a tattoo or a piece of twine instead of a diamond ring, the ultimate value is not in its market worth but in its meaning. By equalizing everybody so as not to leave out anybody, it becomes special to nobody.</div>Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-50362553583416845482011-04-20T12:09:00.000-07:002011-04-21T07:11:51.156-07:00Behind the Lens: Lisa BoggsAfter many emails, phone calls, and meetings with potential candidates, in January Andrew and I unanimously decided on a photographer for our wedding. The skilled shutterbug who will be documenting our big day from start to finish is a Tennessee transplant to DC, <a href="http://www.lisaboggsphotography.com/">Lisa Boggs</a>, who runs her own photography operation out of Great Falls, VA.<br />
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As I <a href="http://idodc.blogspot.com/2011/01/in-love-with-united-with-love.html">previously mentioned</a>, I found Lisa through a local wedding blog that has gradually become less of an indulgence and more of an obsession, <a href="http://www.unitedwithlove.com/">United With Love</a>. Pretty much everything featured on that site is amazing, so I figured she would be nothing short of amazing herself. And I was right.<br />
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We had originally scheduled our engagement shoot to take place on Saturday of last weekend, but it being April and it also being DC (where you have a better chance of predicting the weather correctly by flipping a coin than our local weathermen), our plans were foiled first by massive thunderstorms and then by gusting winds when we tried to push back to Sunday.<br />
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So we've rainchecked for Saturday, April 30, and I hope to finally have some photos of Andrew and me looking like a happy engaged couple to post on here within the next two weeks. In the meantime, check out Lisa's <a href="http://www.lisaboggsphotography.com/blog/">blog </a>to get an idea of her artistic sense and what our shoot might turn out like!Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-49452222772431308482011-03-23T08:32:00.000-07:002011-04-21T06:43:05.464-07:00Cake cannibalism?My friend Christine drew my attention to <a href="http://www.aolnews.com/2011/03/23/bride-orders-giant-wedding-cake-shaped-shaped-like-herself/?a_dgi=aolshare_twitter">this </a>creepy news blurb. Does that count as cannibalism?Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-74827154297939115132011-01-31T12:48:00.000-08:002011-04-21T08:51:05.503-07:00Going fruityA number of people have asked about my general ideas for my wedding color palette, so here are some images that might paint a clearer picture of what I'm going for. I'm looking at watermelon and canteloupe/peach as my primaries, with light lemon and lime accents.<br />
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I've loved Anthropologie because they "get it." They get me. They know that girls like me don't want to dress like vixens or runway models all the time -- they want to feel comfortable and cozy in the clothes they're wearing or in the sheets they're sleeping under. They know we want quality clothes that will last, and that we're willing to pay a little extra for them. They know we value attention to details, like hand-beading, dyeing, ornamental buttons or mood-lifting patterns.<br />
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So today's news that Anthropologie will be rolling out a wedding line, <a href="http://bhldn.com/">BHLDN</a> (pronounced "beholden") next month is simply warming the cockles of my heart. As my friend McLean explains on her fashion and life <a href="http://deacondoesdc.blogspot.com/2011/01/luxe-life-anthropologie-does-weddings.html">blog</a>, the line will feature original designs from the brand as well as pieces by <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">Fleur Wood, Tracy Reese, and Catherine Deane created exclusively for Anthropologie. Dresses will run from moderately priced ($1000) to moderately expensive ($4000). </span></span><br />
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I rendezvous-ed with Marisa at Penn Station an hour before the show and limped to the studio on my gimp foot (I forgot to mention in previous posts that I fell off a pair of 5 inch heels 45 minutes into the New Year, and seriously mangled my right ankle). After what seemed to be ages waiting in line in the blustery cold, we were ushered in to the studio to be prepped, to primp, and to submit our questions and release forms prior to taping.<br />
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The aforementioned gimp food proved fortuitous in the end, as it ushered me and Marisa to the front of the line and the front row of the studio audience.<br />
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Check out the preview for our TV audience debut here, where Marisa's bright orange shirt makes an appearance: <a href="http://www.marthastewart.com/show/the-martha-stewart-show/winter-weddings-show">http://www.marthastewart.com/show/the-martha-stewart-show/winter-weddings-show</a><br />
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The show airs today (Thursday) at 10am on the Hallmark Channel.Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-72573956407519584532011-01-12T12:10:00.000-08:002011-04-21T11:12:49.511-07:00I DO: In love with United With Love<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdPIouPthyphenhyphenlkxZPG1kqJwtzM-kNHcsJdNPNf8LNcEkwP554Xioa8PW38JNvsrKw-igGoQdMGzf_-FW2gyINa0xwCrrDZBgHGLy9bR6XxKEPYD0-CkfkwVpgeRt1__-3O_w_atXW8bJvF5J/s1600/United-With-Love-Square.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdPIouPthyphenhyphenlkxZPG1kqJwtzM-kNHcsJdNPNf8LNcEkwP554Xioa8PW38JNvsrKw-igGoQdMGzf_-FW2gyINa0xwCrrDZBgHGLy9bR6XxKEPYD0-CkfkwVpgeRt1__-3O_w_atXW8bJvF5J/s1600/United-With-Love-Square.jpg" /></a>Hands down, <a href="http://www.unitedwithlove.com/">United With Love</a> is my favorite new wedding blog obsession. <br />
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Recently started by <b>Nole Garey</b> and <b>Juli Smith</b>, who were once DC brides themselves, United With Love features real Washington weddings and offers a plethora of creative DIY decorating ideas, playful themes, and unusual color palettes that so closely mirror my own taste. (Let's be honest, pretty much everything I'm going to do at my reception will probably have been stolen from a post I saw on UWL). It's hard not to find inspiration in a post, and I'm always clicking the refresh button to see if something new has been added.<br />
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And, without wasting an entire day at the office perusing the blog last month, I would never have found my photographer, <a href="http://www.lisaboggsphotography.com/">Lisa</a>, in the sea of DC vendors!Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-7967030345915426502011-01-12T08:44:00.000-08:002011-01-12T12:45:09.726-08:00Washingtonian: Unveiled<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Washingtonian Magazine is hosting its annual <a href="http://www.cvent.com/EVENTS/Info/Summary.aspx?e=000fb124-3691-4427-a1da-33f6c9fc5982">wedding showcase</a> on January 23rd.</div><br />
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Aside from working the check-in desk at a bridal expo for extra cash in college, I've never attended one of these things and am yet to be sold on their merits. I tend to suffer from information overload (a la those annoying Bing commercials all over TV), and I feel like I would be over-inundated with different ideas and suggestions for vendors for every service I need to book all at once. I much prefer to do one thing at a time -- nail down a venue, find a priest, then get a photographer, a caterer, a florist, and so on and so forth down the line. Everything at once would just overwhelm me. Not to mention, $55 is a steep price to have advertisements thrown at you all day.<br />
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<b><i>Secondly</i></b>, we have booked an amazingly talented photographer, <a href="http://www.lisaboggsphotography.com/index2.php">Lisa Boggs</a>!<i> :::The crowd roars!::: </i>This development warrants its own post, so more on that later.<br />
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<b><i>Thirdly</i></b>, we have reserved a date at <a href="http://www.saintmaryparish.net/">St. Mary Catholic Church</a> in Old Town Alexandria for our ceremony, and will be importing our own Ukrainian Catholic priest! Both DC-area Ukrainian churches are far away from where we live, our venue site, and our preferred hotels for guests and are additionally not in areas that are easily accessible by metro or other public transportation, so exchanging vows at either location would've caused a lot of problems for everyone. It took some wheeling and dealing to convince parties on both ends, but it looks like we'll be able to pull this all off... and with only a little extra donation in our church coffer each Sunday.<br />
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<b><i>Lastly</i></b>, there are a ton of wedding showcases, expos, sales, and so-on ahead on the calendar to kick off the new year, and I will try my best to hit as many of them as I can!Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-87265974375753118952010-12-03T13:58:00.001-08:002011-01-07T11:31:28.613-08:00The hottest honeymoons, according to JetsetterStumbled upon <a href="http://passport.jetsetter.com/index.php/2010/10/22/five-hottest-honeymoons-for-2011-where-the-stars-go/">this post</a> on Jetsetter's blog from back in October about the 5 hottest honeymoons for 2011.<br />
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Listed among the locations are French Polynesia -- essentially my dream escape of secluded, luxury, thatched-roof suites on pillars above crystal clear waters -- and an African safari, which I have yet unsuccessfully convinced my fiancé Andrew is a great idea (as he succinctly puts it, "Things die in Africa").<br />
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Hopefully these two regions don't blow up among the touristy set and become overrun by 2012, although safaris are already quickly becoming the new "alternative"/"adventure" vacation, a title that Costa Rica and Belize once occupied before becoming more mainstream. I want my seclusion!Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-61631780892137214462010-12-03T13:20:00.000-08:002011-04-21T11:08:52.372-07:00Ali and Chris's wedding featured in Martha Stewart Real Weddings!My super-sweet friend Ali married her college sweetheart Chris back in April, and I've been going to Ali for wedding ideas and vendor suggestions since then. She's really been an inspiration to me in my own planning, and I have to say that her style and attention to detail resulted in one of (if not <i><b>the</b></i>) cutest, most creatively designed weddings I've ever seen.<br />
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Apparently, Martha Stewart thinks so as well!<br />
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Ali and Chris's wedding has been highlighted in the Martha Stewart Weddings website's "Real Weddings" feature. Congrats to both of you for being so Martha Stewart-fabulous! :)<br />
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Check out the inspired color schemes, decorations, and photography -- courtesy of exceptional photographer <a href="http://kateheadleyphotography.com/">Kate Headley</a> -- right <a href="http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/photogallery/alison-and-chris">here</a>!<br />
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Andrew and I split chores. I am not, nor do I ever expect to be, Iron Chef of the household -- I can bake a cake in my sleep while Andrew can make a gourmet dish out of anything (including ramen noodles), and we're cool with that. We've always been "broke" since we moved in together and had to split rent, food, and entertainment costs so we don't expect our situation to improve at all after a $45,000 wedding. And the love weight? Let's hope the sack of potatoes I seem to have picked up around my hips and belly from lots of couch time with my fiance is all preemptive and won't come back after my wedding diet.<br />
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The one thing that does not shock me but worries me to no end is that seemingly close friends will start to drop off. I already experienced it to a degree when I first entered a relationship with Andrew and we were in that nauseating new-love period where you want to spend every waking moment together and prefer staying in bed cuddly-wuddling all day to going to parties and slamming shots at the bar with your friends. In that instance, the distancing by friends was warranted. Luckily, we both recovered our normal habits quickly and the casualties were minimal. But what will happen when we're no longer dating and are officially Mr and Mrs and become a package deal?<br />
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Most of my friends are single or casually dating and aren't even thinking about marriage, and we have very few couples to hang out with in this city of perennial singletons. Even so, Andrew and I have successfully navigated the pro-bachelor landscape as a couple thus far, endearingly referred to as "Mom and Dad" by some of our nearest and dearest friends. I hope that in marriage, my friends will still see that I'm still "me", just with a lot more bling on my finger and a last name that's much easier to pronounce!Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-13612491547060425722010-11-04T15:25:00.000-07:002011-04-21T11:10:40.381-07:00If it's free, I'll take itPart of the joy of planning a wedding for such a large family and circle of friends is that the cost of food and drink for guests really eats away at the budget. Each time I think I've got my guest list cemented, I'm reminded of another aunt and uncle that I forgot out in Anywhere, USA... and their 4 children. And then the budget shifts a little bit. I can't forget that close family friend that grew up with my mom but I haven't seen since I was in middle school. And it shifts a little more.<br />
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There have been a lot of bridal contests popping up on the web lately, and believe me -- I've entered them all. Some are for photography packages, others for honeymoons or bridal gowns. I've submitted my info for each and every one of them almost instantly after finding them.<br />
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Bella Pictures, one of the largest wedding photography services, is offering a $4800 package to the lucky <a href="http://www.bellapictures.com/sweeps.php">winner</a> in their prize drawing. Down side is you also receive a slew of unwanted phone calls and emails from Bella within 24 hours of registering that is bordering on harassment. I guess it's the economy stupid?<br />
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My favorite luxury clothing and travel one-stop-shopping emporium, Gilt Group, is running a <a href="http://gilt.promo.eprize.com/bridalcontest/">contest</a> for an all-inclusive equally-luxurious honeymoon worth $5000. Applicants must plead their case to Gilt as to why they need or deserve their honeymoon to be paid for, and Gilt's anonymous panel of judges will decide. Although I doubt I have a sob story good enough to stand out, there's really no down side to this one -- everything about Gilt is simply golden.<br />
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TheKnot is encouraging engaged couples to share their stories of betrothal to subscribers on their site for a chance to <a href="http://www.theknot.com/contests/proposal-story-contest/about">win</a> a five-night stay at any all-inclusive Dreams resort in the world. Not too shabby. And while the winners for the previous two contests are selected largely at random, TheKnot entries will be based on votes and reader comments.<br />
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Please keep 'em coming, Candy!<br />
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There were a few hems and haws from doubters out there who teased us for picking a date so far in advance. You still don't believe me that things book up unbelievably fast around here? Well, another bride came in to Oxon Hill Manor's events office early this morning and booked May 19, 2012 -- the day after the date we were holding out for. Another Saturday in that month is also already off the table for a wedding. And the crazy thing is that the 2012 ledger arrived <i>just this morning. </i><br />
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I'm relieved and happy to get started with the nitty and the gritty of planning. Now that I have an actual date to tell vendors, I can actually start meeting with them to discuss products and services and sign some contracts. The wedding ball is officially rolling!Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-80178619477013014952010-09-29T12:08:00.001-07:002010-09-29T12:38:01.607-07:00Alfred Angelo: the new fairy godmotherIf you've always dreaming of a fairy tale wedding, there's some exciting news...<br />
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For those brides who really want the look and feel of a Disney damsel as they walk down the aisle, designer Alfred Angelo has <a href="http://cocoperez.com/2010-09-29-dress_like_a_disney_princess_for_your_wedding_with_alfred_angelo/?from=PH">teamed up</a> with the House of Mouse to roll out a collection of princess-inspired wedding gowns.<br />
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The dresses borrow style sense from some of Disney's most-loved animated fashionistas, including Belle, Aurora, Jasmine, and Cinderella.<br />
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Better yet, you don't need a royal dowry to afford a piece from the new collection. With each dress costing less than $1200, you can <i>look</i> like a princess without <i>paying</i> like one.<br />
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Perez Hilton's fashion site, Coco Perez, has a sneak peak video of the collection, which will be available for retail in 2011.<br />
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Not necessarily my style (I've been pretty open about my adoration for the classic sleek-and-sexy mermaid cut), but for brides who want to take the 'mermaid' look literally, there's now an Ariel gown for that.Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-52698883005938903102010-09-28T19:07:00.000-07:002010-09-29T12:52:30.276-07:00Where the heart is<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">When we first announced our engagement, almost everyone asked where my wedding would be: DC or Philly? One, the place I now lived; the other, the place I had always called home. </span><br />
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</span> </div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Although I knew I wanted to have the ceremony here in the epicenter of the political world I've grown to love, the choice had already been made for me. Weeks before the proposal, my father told me he was selling his house -- </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">our </span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">house, where he had married my mother, where I had been born, where we had loved and lost and overcome all life had to throw at us, and where I had always imagined the roots of our family would stay firmly grounded. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span> </div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Throughout my life, I've considered my parents' house a center of gravity. No matter where I spun out -- be it off to school in Boston, summer adventures somewhere far and away, or forging my career path in a new city -- I'd always find myself drawn back home. <br />
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Early on, my parents instilled in me the notion that our house was a place of gathering, of comfort, and of love. It was constantly filled with people, both friends and family, who would come for my dad's corny puns and my mom's gentle sarcasm and stay for the good food, the stories, and the sense of warmth and inclusion that emanated from our happy home. When my mother passed away in 2002, we tried our best to keep things the same and leave our door open to everyone at any time the way she would've wanted it to be. For the past eight years, we maintained the house and its gardens as a monument to all that she was and all who she loved, and it is difficult to this day to find a single object there that did not feel the touch of her hand.</span><br />
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But to my father, that same house is no longer just a monument. Instead, he says, it has become a tomb. Standing quiet and empty while he is in Florida running his business most of the year, it stores mementos of the wife he lost and the daughter that grew up and moved away. His side of the family left town long ago, heading northwest to Chicago; south to Virginia and North Carolina; east across the Atlantic to the United Kingdom. Some of my mother's side is still in the area, but many of them have also scattered to the wind across land and sea.</span></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: auto;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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<div><div style="text-align: left;"><ul><li><b>Crate & Barrel</b>, for example, hosts <a href="http://www.crateandbarrel.com/Stores/Store.aspx?storeid=106">Wedding Parties</a> several Sundays a month at its various locations. All couples have to do is RSVP and show up the morning of the event for a presentation, and then they can take advantage of 2 free hours of brunch before the store's doors open to the public. The best part? You don't even have to register that day or begin to rack up items on your list. Had I known about these events, I totally would've snuck in to one long ago. </li>
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</ul><ul><li><b>Bloomingdales</b>, which has been a sort of Mecca/"mother ship calling me home" for all of my adult shopping life, has similar events to Macy's but with that extra sense of feel-good exclusivity. Stores in NYC and DC host yearly <a href="http://www.districtweddings.com/the-registry-at-bloomindales-tonight/">Pre-Wedding Wedding Parties</a> for "like-minded professional" couples that feature designer gown fashion shows, cocktails, and catered food. Registrants also get the benefit of one-on-one personal consultants and thank-you note managers along with the customary discount for unpurchased registry items. Alas, I'm about 7 months late on the 2010 event in DC, so I'll have to hold my enthusiasm until next year. </li>
</ul></div><div><ul><li><b>Pottery Barn</b> offers wedding registry <a href="http://www.potterybarn.com/registry/welcome.html?cm_type=gnav">workshops</a> at most of its locations, generally on Tuesdays at 6pm. While their events don't have the allure of free food and drink, PB still gets a winning mark because, well, it's PB and I think pretty much everything about that store is amazing. Instead, PB's consultants offer you the invaluable service of walking you through your selection and picking out complimentary items that will create a cohesive, well-designed look for your home. When you've been living with hand-me-down sofas and yard sale-acquired decor, learning to match your gravy boat to your table runner ranks pretty high up there in perks in my book. </li>
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</div><div style="text-align: left;">I have yet to look into whether any local district boutiques offer private registry events, but I'm sure that in a city like DC where just about anything warrants a cocktail party, they'll crack a bottle for you and your fiance while you size up their inventory.</div></div>Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-52164926336076791962010-09-22T15:16:00.000-07:002010-09-29T12:14:21.903-07:00The DressIn 2002, I made the mistake of working at the Boston Bridal Expo for a couple extra bucks to pad my college-poor wallet. I say "mistake" because that day, while flipping through magazines at the registration table between bubbly brides, I found "The Dress". It was the most simple yet elegant gown ever created: strapless, mermaid-silhouette, form-fitting, and made of piqued ivory lace. The model owned the look. She dripped 1920s sex appeal, leaning out of the shadows provocatively toward her reflection in an antique mirror, birdcage blusher veil lightly draped over her contoured dark brow, pursing her burgundy lips as if about to put them to a cigarette holder and draw a long breath before her monumental walk down the aisle. I was only 18, serially single, and couldn't even bring myself to like a guy for more than a week much less wrap my head around the idea of marriage -- but I wanted to be her. In that dress. In that moment.<br />
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I ripped out the ad from the magazine and took it home with me that night, placing it in my diary for safe keeping.<br />
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Fast forward 9 years later. After Andrew asked "Will you?" and I said "OMG I will!" and we finally had a moment to itemize the things we'd have to do to prepare for a wedding, I knew that at least dress shopping would be a cinch. I had known for years exactly the one I wanted, so all I had to do was locate it, shoot it, tie it to the bumper, and bring it home to mount on my trophy wall. Done.<br />
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When visiting my father back home in Pennsylvania, I rushed to my bedroom and snatched my diary from its storage bin. I flipped through page after page, but The Dress was nowhere to be found.<br />
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I attempted Googling but without the designer, the season, or recollection of the magazine from which the ad came, I couldn't narrow down the results enough to find it. The Dress was lost to time and the internet and, I thought, nothing -- <i>absolutely nothing</i> -- I'd find would ever be good enough.<br />
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Just before I closed my browser, I figured I'd take at least take a moment to look over the suggestions Google had come up with. All strapless, all mermaid. But with ribbons? Ruching? I hadn't given those much thought before, but all of a sudden I wanted them both. But those details hadn't been incorporated in my previous conceptualization of the ideal gown. Suddenly, The Dress had competition.<br />
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In fact, I've found better dresses already. Holding steadfast to one concept made me dismiss all the other possible ones out there. And, realistically, every aspect of The Dress was so idealized in my head that had I gone and tried it on in a store, I can bet the real thing wouldn't have stood up to my memory. Think of how disappointed I would've been then.<br />
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Point of story? It's great to go into dress shopping with an <i>idea</i>, but not an <i>ideal</i>. The wonderful thing about the bridal fashion industry these days is that you can find almost every variation on a concept you have in your head, and at prices that you can afford. Clearly the strapless, ivory mermaid-cut dress is so popular that you can find it with any possible tweak to detailing: beading, lace, beading <i>and </i>lace, ribbons, bustles, trains, silk taffeta or silk organza material. Just when you think you know exactly what you want, you find something new. <br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The Dress had given me the perfect platform to start from. I still knew the scene I wanted to set. If I wore any of these other dresses, would I still be the sultry, classical bride in the antique mirror? Absolutely. And maybe even sultrier. </div>Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-75012818048234339732010-09-20T13:55:00.000-07:002010-09-28T18:34:40.556-07:00The perfect placeWhen I told my friend McLean -- a journalist and savvy blogger -- that I had started a wedding blog, she offered her encouragement and her advice. Cardinal rule #1: post every day. And what have I done? I've left a 10 day gap since my last entry. Bad, bad bride. <br />
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And it's not for lack of material either. In fact, the past two weekends have been quite eventful with respect to finally nailing down that elusive wedding date and venue. Dozens of calls, site visits, and crumpled sheets of budgeting math later, I'm closing the book on my reception site. And at the risk of offending my fiancé, to whom I previously swore all of my heart, I can honestly declare that <i>I am in love</i>.<br />
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<a href="http://www.pgparks.com/places/eleganthistoric/oxonhill_intro.html">Oxon Hill Manor</a> is a true DC gem hidden in plain sight, just 15 minutes south of the city in Oxon Hill, Maryland. It certainly slipped past my notice as I tore through metro area bridal magazines as it does not boldly advertise itself for rent like many other locales. Built in 1928 for Sumner Welles, President Franklin D. Roosevelt's Undersecretary of State, the 49-room mansion sits on a plot of land overlooking the Potomac that once belonged to George Washington's nephews. The manor is actually very easy to access as it is located right across the I-495 bridge from Old Town Alexandria. The area is better known for the monumental Washington National Harbor and luxury its hotels such as the Gaylord, so it's easy to see why Oxon Hill is overshadowed by its neighbors.<br />
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</div>The manor has recently undergone significant renovations to its interior, and the pictures on its site are not current and therefore do not do it justice. But one of the most impressive features of the property is a spiraling antique wood and wrought-iron staircase from the second-floor bridal suite to the main hall, a spot I'm sure is commonly used by photographers for posing pictures.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: left;">Most amazing, however, are the perfectly manicured gardens of the estate. Seasonal flowers wrap around the property's large reflecting pool and line the way from the house to an old brick grotto -- a popular spot for on-site wedding ceremonies. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The area around the reflecting pool is also a popular staging spot for wedding events, most commonly used for cocktail hour before a plated dinner. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: left;">While the building itself holds up to 170 guests for a seated reception, the brick patio at the back of the manor serves as the stage for outdoor dinners for over 200 people, event tent optional. Some couples choose to hold their receptions <i>al fresco</i> in warmer weather, incorporating the open night sky as a part of their decor. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Aside from meeting all of our personal criteria -- historic, metro-accessible from DC, and full of flowers -- the price was also right. For $4,400 (2010 pricing), a couple can reserve the entire property for a seven hour event block, 6pm-1am. Prince George MD county residents get a discounted rate, but alas we are both Arlingtonians so that doesn't apply for us. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Oxon Hill Manor does come with some strict guidelines for when your vendors can arrive on-site for setup and breakdown. Additionally, there are some restrictions on dark foods and drinks that can be served at the reception as the caretakers are rightly concerned about property damage. But if you plan your event for a Friday, your vendors can arrive as early as you'd like for a nominal additional fee. Waivers for dark drinks such as red wine can also be obtained for a nominal additional fee to keep your guests from being baffled at the lack of pinot noir at the bar. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">And lastly, I cannot forget to mention the helpfulness of the Oxon Hill property administrators. They were kind, accommodating, and very informative! In my mind this is always a major selling point, as their behavior is a good indicator of what level of help you'd get from your venue staff should anything ever go wrong on the day of your wedding. We've gone to see several venues where one would assume the staff would be on their best behavior in the hope that you'd sign over a really fat check at the end of the tour, and were surprised by (most commonly) general indifference and once or twice even outright rudeness. More on other venues we've seen in a later post. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So, we left all our information with the staff and will put our money down as soon as their 2012 ledger arrives (it is 'in the mail' and due to arrive this week, so the events office can't take any money from us until it has it in its possession). Once we cut the check, we'll get to work on some save-the-date cards... </div>Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-18967842868205745372010-09-10T08:39:00.000-07:002010-09-28T18:15:18.927-07:00Money, Cash, ClothesEarlier this week, my fiancé Andrew and I sat down to talk turkey about our wedding budget: how much were we willing to spend, and how much were we willing to save? We decided to skim a few extra dollars off of each paycheck and start pooling together our funds for the type of big, bad-ass wedding we wanted. Not to mean we'd be eating cans of beans and ramen noodles for the next year and a half, or siphoning gas from strangers' cars at the pumping station when they weren't looking just to save a buck. But we'd definitely have to be more aware of where our money was going week to week, and err on the side of saving when it came down to potentially frivolous purchases. <br />
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I consider myself a pretty sensible spender to begin with. I'm not big on splurging, but I'm not a penny pincher either. I'll buy several rounds of shots when I go out, but then I'll spend the next few nights staying in and watching movies. I don't go to Ted Gibson to get my hair cut -- whoever's free at my local salon is just fine. And although I tend to pick up a lot of items in a store, I edit down my final purchases in line and by the time I get to the checkout counter, I've usually whittled the total to mostly "need-its" and maybe a "want-it" or two in the mix. <br />
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But then Nordstrom happened. And not just any Nordstrom, but Nordstrom Rack, where one is lured into the false sense of frugality through "discount designer" syndrome. A $400 pair of Cole Haan boots, even at an alluring 50% off, is still going to cost you $200. Like a gastric bypass patient who walks into McDonald's and swears they're just going to order a salad, I fell off our new budget wagon. Hard. <br />
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But it was <i>my </i>money, right? So no harm no foul. Or so I thought. <br />
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Perhaps 3 weeks ago that argument would stand. But what I realized when I got home and dropped my bags filled with $600-worth of fall fashion just inside the door was that, when budgeting in coordination with someone else, my big splurge was actually also Andrew's big splurge. For the money I hadn't planned to take out of my own account, I'd have to budget elsewhere. With a debit purchase, that means less cash-on-hand for other more necessary monthly expenditures. With credit, that means the money that I'd planned on putting towards our wedding will now go towards paying off my bill or, if not paid in full, rack up even more debt next month from interest.<br />
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We try our best to alternate who pays when we go out, but Andrew will likely foot the bill a bit more often this month. When it's my turn to buy our groceries, I'm sure my list will look slightly shorter than usual. Fewer date nights, less driving of my car and more driving of his, less slush money for an unscheduled weekend excursion to the Renaissance Fair or for tolls up to see his friends and family in New Jersey. Andrew's budget is going to take a hit to make up for a dollar here and a dollar there that I just can't pay.<br />
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Every wedding magazine I've bought has a section on managing your wedding budget, including charts and spread sheets, suggested percentages for expenditures on food and decor, and what to do if you overspend on one expense to avoid throwing the budget for others off-kilter. But I've yet to see anything about managing your own finances in order to keep to said wedding budget. Where is the <i>Smart Girl's Guide to Saying No to the Peep-toes So You Can Say Yes to the Dress</i>? <br />
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The toughest part of saving up for something so far in advance is remembering that your budgeting decisions, even with your own money, will affect your better half and his ability to budget as well -- a very expensive lesson learned only 15 minutes after the swipe of my card. Does that mean I'll run back to Nordstrom and return some, if not all, of the things I bought? I'll sleep on it, but it might be more dangerous sending me back into the field. But with 19 more months of budgeting ahead of me, it's the kind of indiscretion I can't afford to keep making.Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-401033852111948641.post-91848243994940825242010-09-09T11:20:00.000-07:002010-09-28T18:18:59.269-07:00First comes love, then comes marriage...<i>Andrew and Alexis, sitting in a tree, k-i-s-s-i-n-g...<br />
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We all know the nursery rhyme. We learned it in kindergarden or early on in elementary school, and used it to mercilessly taunt our classmates to tears as it was a well-known fact that any association with the opposite sex would undoubtedly lead to a full-blown case of the cooties.<br />
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In middle school, when we started realizing that -- hey -- Kevin Miller's silver braces kinda matched that silver sparkle in his brooding eyes that I hadn't ever noticed before, our friends teased us with the same old singsong to get us to blush as we passed that certain someone in the hall.<br />
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When we convinced our parents to lower their shotguns long enough for us to go on an actual date in high school, we realized that two teens sitting alone in a tree would, in fact, lead to the k-i-s-s-i-n-g. As would sitting in a movie theater, on a bench at the mall, on a cardboard box in your school's art supply closet, or any other surface that could sustain your combined weight.<br />
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As adults, a once silly rhyme has become a sort of blueprint for many of us. Like most of my friends, I stumbled upon the elusive "love" for the first time in college. Then I was lucky enough to actually hold onto it. <br />
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And after that love, we girls all know what's supposed to come then. But getting there once you've said "yes" isn't as easy as the rhyme.<br />
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Some of my girlfriends have been dreaming up every last detail of the day they'll say "I DO" since they were tall enough to reach <i>Martha Stewart Weddings</i> on the magazine rack in the check-out line at the supermarket. Others, like myself, are downright clueless brides-to-be.<br />
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After the shock of the rock (ohmygod it's big! it's shiny! it's mine!), I was hit by the magnitude of my new project: organizing a weekend of wedding events for over 200 family members and friends (we know a lot of people) without any major disasters, all the while staying within our modest budget. At first, it seemed the check list would be pretty straightforward -- find a priest, find a venue, find a chef and hit the liquor store. Bam, I'm done. But then I quickly realized that planning a party of that scale in a city defined by social and political gatherings 365 days out of the year was no easy task. In every step I take, I'm competing with the Fund for Orphaned 3-Legged Korean Puppies for space, services, prices, and even the most basic necessity for an event: an open date on the calendar. I am diving headfirst into churning, murky wedding waters and hoping I float. <br />
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I'm happy to say that I'm not going-it totally alone. I have some great friends who've already blazed the trail ahead of me and have offered up their advice and wedding books (wedding books? what are those?), others who have great connections to vendors and venues all over Washington DC, and a great fiance who is willing to go above and beyond the traditional groom duties of booking the limo and buying his tux. With the right luck, the right advice, and the right help, I may just pull this thing off... and through my musings, may even help another bride that is just as clueless as me.<br />
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<i>First comes love, then comes marriage.</i> As for the rest of the rhyme? We won't be singing that part anytime soon.Alexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07065159097066389558noreply@blogger.com0